In January, Dr. Cassi Fleming (of the Vetfolio Voice Podcast) interviewed Dr. Andy Roark on lessons he has learned in his strange and wonderful career. That episode of Vetfolio Voice is presented here.
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LINKS
Vetfolio Voice Podcast: https://www.vetfolio.com/pages/podcast-landing-page
Dr. Andy Roark Exam Room Communication Tool Box Team Training Course: https://drandyroark.com/on-demand-staff-training/
Dr. Andy Roark Charming the Angry Client Team Training Course: https://drandyroark.com/charming-the-angry-client/
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EPISODE TRANSCRIPT
Dr. Andy Roark:
Welcome everybody to a bonus episode of VetFolio Voice. That’s right. This is not The Cone of Shame Veterinary Podcast. I mean, it is. It’s coming through The Cone of Shame channel, but this is an episode of another podcast called VetFolio Voice that is hosted by my friend, Dr. Cassie Fleming. She is amazing.
If you don’t know her, she invited me at the VMX Conference to come to the VetFolio booth and to be interviewed on a podcast for her. And then, when it was over, she said, “Would you like to have the audio and you can put it out as a Cone of Shame episode if you like?” I really loved our conversation. I thought it was really great, and so she generously passed the audio over. And so, I want you guys to check it out.
But if you like this conversation, check out VetFolio Voice. Check out what Dr. Cassie’s doing. She’s really great, but they have lots of other people much smarter and more interesting than me probably doing interviews. Anyway, guys. Thanks to VetFolio Voice for letting me share this with you guys. I hope you’ll check out their other episodes of the podcast. Let’s get into this episode.
Kelsey Beth Carpenter:
(Singing) This is your show. We’re glad you’re here. We want to help you in your veterinary career. Welcome to The Cone of Shame with Dr. Andy Roark.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
Well, thanks everybody for tuning in. I’m sitting here on the expo hall floor at VMX with the one and only Andy Roark, so thank you for joining me.
Dr. Andy Roark:
No. Thanks for having me. I appreciate it.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
I’m happy to have you and to bring your messaging out to the audience. Not that you need any help with that, because your messaging is far and wide and for a reason. You have so many good things to say.
Dr. Andy Roark:
Well, thank you.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
I’m excited to sit down and talk to you and pick your brain a little bit.
Dr. Andy Roark:
Sure. Fire away. Whatever you want to talk about.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
I guess we can start with a little bit of the backstory of how we got introduced. It was me reaching out through Facebook, wondering if I was still a real vet, because I was going through some career changes and taking on a less clinical role.
I was really struggling emotionally with that, to go, “Am I still a real vet? I don’t know. Am I a sellout? What am I? What’s happening here?” You and I had a great conversation and I felt so much better after our talk.
Dr. Andy Roark:
Well, that’s good.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
I’m wondering if we can bring a little bit of that to everybody listening?
Dr. Andy Roark:
Sure. I do remember that email when it came in, but I think everybody has to find what works for them. It’s kind of like with therapy. We’re like, “There’s no right answer.” It’s the tools that you need to process and feel good about where you are. And so, self-identity is a big part of it. I think self-identity is a big part of vet medicine. The way we see ourselves really matters.
It’s why vets get so mad when pet owners will say stuff like, “You’re only in this for the money.” We say that because it’s a challenge to our core identity and who we are as people. We know it’s garbage. We know it’s not true, but it’s so much being giving and supportive and helpful and doing everything we can, and so much a part of how we see ourselves. When somebody says that … Again, it doesn’t hit everybody that way, but there’s a lot of us who really react emotionally very strongly to it.
But I think it’s really because it hits that identity thing. And so, there’s very much a strong culture in vet medicine that I love. You guys, you see. I was just talking to some technicians outside the booth. They work in industry now, but I knew who they were as soon as I saw them. You can tell by the way they walk that they’re technicians. They’re credentialed technicians. They’ve been in the trenches. You just talk to them for a minute and you know that they have seen some stuff and they’ve done some stuff.
They can’t hide it. It’s baked into who they are. That’s the type of culture that we have. It kind of permeates you as a person after a while. And so, it makes a lot of sense that as you go on in your career and you start to do other things … Especially, as a doctor, when you’re not just in the exam rooms, putting hands on patients and fixing patients. At some point, you start to say, “What does this mean for my identity? What does it mean for who I am?”
And so, there’s this thing called cognitive dissonance. Cognitive dissonance is this idea … If I’m not living a life that matches up with the ideal version of myself in my head, I don’t like that. We want to believe that we’re being the person that we want to be. I see cognitive dissonance a lot in doctors that start to do other things. Whether it’s moving to industry. Whether it’s to start doing other careers. Whether it’s going part-time, so they can spend more time with their family. Whether it is moving up into management leadership roles, which is more and more common.
As we have corporatization, we have a lot more doctors that are getting bumped up to be a chief of staff at a hospital, a medical director, something like that. Now, we’ve got more and more doctors that are stronger leaders that are moving up into overseeing multiple hospitals. These are roles that just didn’t exist in the past. And so, there’s a lot of doctors moving up into those spots and they’re really having an identity crisis in a lot of ways. Because they’re like, “Man, the ideal version of me is in the exam room. Helping people, fixing pets, helping pet owners. Making an impact there.”
I’m the person who my technicians say, “We’re really behind,” I can step in. I can fix things. “I can’t get this catheter in.” I can step in and do that. Whatever. I say that as a total joke, because my technicians are never going to ask me to put a catheter in. Because they’re exponentially better than I am. But the idea is as we’re not doing those anymore, we have this weird thing of, “Who am I and what am I?” And if you hold yourself to the standard of, “I am great because I’m excellent in the exam room. Clients like me and I get Thank You notes.” And then, you’re not in the exam room anymore and you’re not getting that validation. You’re not getting Thank You notes, because you’re not in the exam room you used to be.
You’re like, “I’m failing. The thing that I thought made me good, I’m no longer doing. And so, I’m failing.” There’s a lot of pain that I see people are carrying around from this identity. I kind of went through that as well. I very much had this imposter syndrome as I do more and more things that I do. I own Uncharted Veterinary Conference and I run this business conference and this online community for vet leaders. It’s very much a leadership development platform.
And so, as I do that and I do more and more speaking and I do writing and stuff … I still practice, but not in a significant way like I used to. Every week, I’m in the clinic, but it’s one day and that’s it. You start to look at yourself and you’re like, “I don’t like the idea that I’m pretending that I’m a full-time veterinarian.” I don’t want people to see that. I don’t like to live my life in this idea that I’m misleading people about who I am. I want to have that confidence.
I heard this interview with a Hollywood agent one time. She said, “Powerful people don’t wear toupees.” And that’s what she said. The idea is that a toupee is something that someone wears because they’re insecure about the way they look. Something like that. You’ve got a guy and he’s bald and he’s going to wear a toupee. She said, “The thing is that people know and they’ve got something on you.” You are trying to fool them. You are showing that you are insecure about this thing and you’re putting it forward and people know. They feel like they’ve got something on you.
I don’t mean this in a bad way at all, but the idea is she says powerful people don’t wear toupees. The idea is that if you are powerful, you don’t care. You’re not going to give someone that leverage or that ability. You are who you are and you have that confidence. Again, I’m not trying to make this a reference about toupees at all, but it was an interesting way of putting it. She looked at it and I’m kind of like, “Man, I feel like I’m wearing this veterinary toupee.” In a way of, I’m not in practice all the time and I feel like I’m worried about people knowing that. And that doesn’t make any sense.
And that’s not how I want to live my life. It’s not an authentic version of myself. And so, I don’t think anybody cares, but I care. I’m talking about my self-identity and sorting these things out. Ultimately, it comes all the way back around to … Basically, I got comfortable with the idea of not being a quote, unquote, “Real vet.” I was like, look, I’m a guy. I’m a writer and a speaker and I practice. I’m a dad and I practice.
I think we have a problem in vet medicine in a lot of ways of just having our identity so wrapped up in our job. I think there’s something really healthy in being able to say, “It’s just a job. It’s not who I am.” I go to work and I do the thing and I go home and I put it down. I have other hobbies and I do other things and I engage with my family. When we talk about burnout and mental health and stuff like that in vet medicine, I think this idea of, “Being a veterinarian defines my core being.” I don’t know that that’s really healthy.
My mental shift was to say, I’m not going to ask myself if I’m a real vet or not. I am a dad who practices. I am a writer who sees cases. That’s what I do. That’s who I am. And that’s not cognitive dissonance for me, because that is who I am. The authentic version of myself and how I see it. And so, when I talked to leaders who have, say, moved up and they’re managing people now instead of seeing appointments. A lot of them go, “But am I a real vet?” I was like, “Well, there’s two options.”
You can either try to talk yourself around into the idea that, “Yes, I am a real vet, because this is what being a real vet means.” And so, you can go through the process of defining what is a real vet in your mind. Or you can let that go and just say, “I am a leader of people who also sees appointments when it’s needed,” and decide to be okay with that. But anyway, that was the process that I went through.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
Well, I’m listening to you talk and I relate so closely to everything that you’re saying. All of those emotions I can identify with. I agree with you about having it baked into your identity like you put it. In that, it is a reality. I don’t know if it’s healthy, but I know it’s part of me.
Dr. Andy Roark:
It is what it is. Sure.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
I can certainly feel that way.
Dr. Andy Roark:
Well, of course. Think about the process it takes to become a vet. You go through four years of vet school. Vet school is hard. It’s really hard. I’ll never forget one of my buddies that was in vet school.
At one point, it was one in the morning and we’re in the library and we’re studying. He looked at me and he said, “Honestly. Did you think vet school was going to be this hard?” I was like, “No. I 100% did not think it was going to be this hard.” I was like, “Yeah. It’s a thing. I’ll go. It’s like a program.”
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
I’ve done school my whole life.
Dr. Andy Roark:
I’ve done a lot of school. I had no idea how hard vet school would be. I’m still blown away at how difficult it was, but it was this crucible in a lot of ways. When you go through something like that, it does become an identity. You see people who are wild college fans. They went to the school and now they have all the accoutrement.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
I was Florida Gators.
Dr. Andy Roark:
Florida Gators, all the way. I know. Exactly. But vet school is that turned up nine notches. It’s the same thing. People celebrate it because they had this experience. They in incorporate this experience into their identity. But man, that’s nothing compared to vet medicine. When you’re like, “Boy. The training process is so rigorous and so grueling.” And then, I punch in and punch out every single day and what we do is emotionally challenging work.
It is a very difficult job. It’s a great job, but it’s a difficult job. And so, all of those things are like you carry those scars, those experiences. And of course, they kind of bake into how you see yourself. I think it’s undeniable. It’s going to happen. I think so much it may be an unreasonable goal to say, “I’m going to think this is just a job and still be happy.”
I think it’s probably one of those things in life that’s good to aspire to, because you’re never going to do it, but by trying to get there, you’re putting yourself into a healthy space. Do you know what I mean? I don’t even know that … I think if you’re like, “I don’t see it as a job, so I’m failing.” I think that’s wrong. I think that you should aspire to see it as a job. And then, when you come up short, you’re probably where you need to be.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
You’re probably where a lot of us are. For all of us.
Dr. Andy Roark:
Hopefully.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
Well, I like that you brought up the cognitive dissonance. There’s this internal monologue that we’re all trying to figure out, but listening to you talk about it and thinking about it from my own perspective, I’m like, “Oh my gosh. I think I’m putting all of this energy into how I describe what I do to other people.”
Dr. Andy Roark:
Yes.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
That is where the rub is. In the grand scheme of things, is it really that important how I describe my job to other people who ask me?
Dr. Andy Roark:
It’s interesting. For most people, the answer is a solid no. There are other vets that will 100% look at you like, “But do you practice?”
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
Right.
Dr. Andy Roark:
You see it. I just remember people over the years always asked me, “But how much do you practice?” It’s interesting. Because in their mind, that’s the value system that they have, which is you’re a vet, which is defined at how many hours a week you’re in practice, seeing patients, and putting your hands on them. And that’s how they associate what you’re doing.
I think that when you’re being asked that question, it feels like a judgment question of, “What is your worth?” I don’t think that people mean it that way. I think they genuinely want to understand, “What do you do with your time?”
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
Sure.
Dr. Andy Roark:
And so, I think that the way that you receive that question is probably different from how it’s intended. Although there are some people who definitely have that measuring stick out. What I would say is it’s a stupid measuring stick.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
There you go. Is that really a healthy measuring?
Dr. Andy Roark:
Exactly right. Exactly right. But how many hours do you spend in the exam room? I’m like, “What does that have to do with anything, really?” You know what I mean? If you want to understand …
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
It’s better if you’re in medicine. It’s so far and wide. There’s so much more to it.
Dr. Andy Roark:
Well, if you want to understand how I spend my time, then I totally get it. If the idea is, “We’re going to compare ourselves as individuals to each other based on the number of hours we spend in the exam room,” that’s just not a contest that I’m particularly interested in. But I do think that part of the growth is deciding that you’re not interested in that contest.
If you think that contest is important, then the measuring is a big deal for you and always will be a big deal for you. But I think what’s liberating is to say, “This is not a contest I want to win.” It’s kind of like if you step back and you look at … I think most of us go through this in life. We came to vet medicine and we did not come here for riches.
At some point in this world, we’ve got this very visual society and people are on social media and we see how other people live their lives. We’re seeing the best versions of themselves in the front stage and their vacations and stuff. At some point, you have to kind of decide, “Well, what does it mean to have a happy life?” I think most of us at some point figured out, “I’m not going to measure the quality of my life by the money that I make or by the material possessions that I have.”
I think this is just another extension of that. We’re always deciding how we’re going to measure the quality of our life. And so, there’s just a lot of us who measure the quality of our life by the number of hours we spend in the exam room helping pets. And that’s not a bad measurement, but I wouldn’t compare people with that measurement. And I choose not to value myself based on that measurement.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
I feel like you’re speaking to my soul here. Because spoiler alert, I did increase my time in industry and it was hard.
Dr. Andy Roark:
Sure.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
I struggled a lot emotionally. Probably, because of that measuring stick we’re talking about. But at some point, I looked around and I was like, “I’m really happy with the situation that I have here.” And I’m the same as you. I still practice and still practice a lot.
It did become this … I became comfortable talking to people about what I do and saying I’m in continuing education. I think you actually helped me craft some of that wording of, “This is what you do. This is what you’re doing.” It helped put a label on it. It helped me recognize the importance of it. And then, I woke up one day and exactly like you’re describing. That measuring stick didn’t matter anymore.
Dr. Andy Roark:
That’s what it’s got to be.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
I feel good.
Dr. Andy Roark:
“I’m in continuing education and I practice veterinary medicine.” That’s great. That’s an accurate representation of who you are. Also, when you use that language, it’s you verbalizing the measuring stick that has chosen to matter to you. Everybody should have a measuring stick.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
I was going to say. Should we have these measuring sticks? Are these important?
Dr. Andy Roark:
You should. You should, but you should be extremely intentional about which measuring stick you choose. Because your life is what you focus on. And so, if you focus on the fact that, “I’m not in the clinic as much as I want to be or as much as I used to be,” then your life is one of you coming up short. And that’s how your life is. If you focus on politics and you’re like, “I eat, breathe, and sleep politics, then your life is politics and conflict.
Your life is this thing that’s going on that you really have very little or no influence in, and that’s your life. This thing that you don’t have any influence over. Again, I’m not saying, “Ignore this or do that,” but I am saying you should be intentional about what you focus on. It’s a subtle shift. But if you say, “I’m going to measure myself based on the number of appointments that I see,” and I switch that over to, “I’m going to measure my life based on the impact I have in my community.” Those are different measuring sticks.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
Very.
Dr. Andy Roark:
But I don’t think that one is necessarily better than the other. But I think that you can select a measuring stick that matches what you’re doing and who you are, and I think you can be much more happy. Ultimately, you have to decide what’s important so you can live your life to it, but you should be really intentional about how you make that selection.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
I like your focus on intentionality there. I think that is something that’s really difficult, because it is so easy to define yourself as a veterinarian by exam room time. And then, when you get away from that, all of a sudden you’re like a ship without a rudder. Where am I? Who am I? What am I doing?
Not just letting it all come together and figure it out along the way, but seeing it clearly. I like what you said about being intentional. About how you craft that messaging to yourself even more importantly than other people.
Dr. Andy Roark:
Absolutely. Veteran medicine, it’s intoxicating that way. In that, there are so many things that we can quantify in medicine. I think most of us look around and try to figure out, “Is our life meaningful?” Or, “Are we living the purpose that we want?” We always want to know how we’re doing. Honestly, I don’t know how much of it is bred into us versus how much is trained into us.
I promise you. It is definitely trained into us. We go through vet school and everybody’s trying to get an A and everything is quantified. What did you get on this exam? What did you get in this course? Do you get a gold star? Do you get a pat on the back? We are brought up into that system. Then, you get out and I see a lot of that really struggle with the end of the pat on the head, A-plus system. And so, they look for another way to pat themselves on the head or get the A-plus or get the gold star.
Vet medicine offers a lot of things that are very quantifiable. How many appointments did you see today? How many patients did you see? How many Thank You notes did you get? Did people mention you in online reviews? What is your Google rating? What is your practice’s Google rating? Are you doing this other thing? Are you certified in this thing or that thing? There’s all of these little gold stars and metrics and numbers that you can put on and say, “How am I doing? How am I doing? How am I doing?”
The thing that’s hard to put a number on is how you’re going to feel at the end of your days. You know what I mean? When you look back on your life and say, “Did I live a good life?” I think a lot of us would really like to be able to get a report card that tells us how we did. Because a lot of us came up in that system and we’re like, “I’ve always gotten As. I’m going to get an A in life.”
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
How else will I know?
Dr. Andy Roark:
How else will I know? But there is no report card that comes at the end. You know what I mean? You don’t get a grade on the quality of your relationship you have with your kids. You know what I mean? You don’t get a grade based on who you affected and how you helped other people in their lives. It’s not quantifiable. And I think that’s a challenge. I think it’s really easy to try to look at numbers and say, “How am I doing? How am I doing?” And so, it’s not an easy issue.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
It’s kind of an internal evaluation there.
Dr. Andy Roark:
It’s absolutely an internal thing.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
And that’s because things are so externally quantifiable and there’s so much data to say how we’re doing. At least, professionally. Maybe it makes it harder to look internally and find that internal validation?
Dr. Andy Roark:
Of course, it is. I really struggle with this. Again, you write the book you need to read. I really struggle with validating myself. It was funny. I was talking to somebody recently. I’m a big believer in positive reinforcement. I really am. My staff that I work with, I really want them to know how much I appreciate them. I really focus a lot more on trying to catch people do doing good work and calling it out. As opposed to saying, “Well, this didn’t really go well.” Or, “We could do that better.”
I’d much rather catch them when they crush it and just say, “Did you see that? Did you see how that worked? Did you see how great that was? Let’s do that again, because that was amazing.” It’s a better way to grow people and to make them want to work for you. But the truth is, I don’t tend to use that with myself very much. I’m very problem-focused. I’m that guy who I could do a surgery and it would be great. And I will say, “That incision could have been smaller.” That’s exactly it.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
Did I put in that suture in the right spot? Did I put an extra one in that I shouldn’t have?
Dr. Andy Roark:
It’s pooching out at the bottom.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
Yes. The dog ears. I can’t.
Dr. Andy Roark:
Exactly. It’s a thing we all kind of have to work on. I think a lot of things that make you great in your profession as a veterinarian or as anything else … Most all of the things that make you great are also double-edged swords. Your attention to detail is going to torture you. In that, you can’t control everything and it’ll always be wrong.
Your perfectionism is going to make you wonderful in working up cases, and it’s going to punish you, because you’re going to really struggle to delegate. Because other people won’t do it the way that you do. I don’t know. Your charisma is great, because it makes people want to be around you. And it also makes it really hard to get out of exam rooms. It slows you down.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
I feel that.
Dr. Andy Roark:
But it’s almost all that way. It’s really interesting. I didn’t realize earlier in my life how much our real strengths are almost always weaknesses on the other side. We really have to manage our strengths or else they’ll eat us up.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
I never really thought about it. You always think about it from the contrary perspective of, “My greatest weakness actually is my greatest strength,” and all this. But you’re right. It goes the other way. My strength is my weakness as well. I remember right before my vet school interview having a conversation with a friend of mine, who was helping me prep for the interview.
I was working as a technician at the time and I said, “I’m pulling my hair out and I can’t keep up with all of these things.” He said, “Well, don’t you have other people that you work with?” I said, “Well, yeah, but the manager pulled me aside and she said ultimately what happens on the floor is my responsibility at the end of the night. So I have to go and I have to make sure everything is right. Because otherwise, it’s going to come back on me.”
He said, “Well, don’t you trust the people you work with?” I said, “Of course I do.” He’s like, “Well then, why are you having to go back and check and double-check?” And so, what you said there about being a really bad delegator I feel is something that I can identify with very closely. I certainly feel the perfectionist and detail-oriented tendencies in myself. Just because I think we’re all a little bit that way. I don’t think my husband would agree.
Dr. Andy Roark:
Sure. And it’s on the flip side as well. One of my strengths is delegation. I tend to leverage people really as well. I’m such a big technician fan. That’s because I like techs and I like working with techs. They make me so much faster and better, because I’m very comfortable delegating to them. But there’s a flip side to that sword as well, which is I will empower people and sometimes they’ll struggle.
Because I empower them, but they don’t have as much support as they would like. I have to manage that of, “I’m very willing to give you this thing. I’m giving you an opportunity here.” But sometimes, I delegate these things away. And there’s a chance I’m going to have to go back and say, “This didn’t work out the way that we wanted.” Or “Hey. I didn’t realize that you hadn’t been trained in this,” and things like that.
But there’s no perfect way. You’re going to fail on one side or the other. You’re either not going to give people opportunities, you’re not going to give them autonomy, or you’re giving them autonomy and they’re going to make mistakes.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
Sure.
Dr. Andy Roark:
And so, you pick your poison. That’s another part of life. We’re always just picking our poison. The Buddhists say that life is suffering. And that seems really awful and morbid, but I think it’s true in a lot of ways. I think that that life is always going to be hard. You should just know it’s always going to be hard.
The greatest empowerment we have is choosing how you’re going to struggle, because you’re going to struggle. Do you want to struggle by holding onto everything so it gets done the right way? Or do you want to struggle by giving it away to people? And then, you have to check back up on them, and every now and then, we have to make some adjustments. There’s no way that doesn’t have some hardship in it. It’s choosing the hardship that you have.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
I’ve heard the Buddhist saying, “Life is suffering.” I think that’s good life advice to say, like you said, life is going to be hard no matter what. How would you apply that to vet med? In some ways, vet med is hard. It’s always going to be hard.
Dr. Andy Roark:
In some ways. That’s exactly it. People talk a lot about the hardships of the profession. I’m really glad you asked me this, because I think this is really important. Vet medicine ins always going to be hard. It is a hard job. It is a emotionally taxing job. It’s a mentally taxing job. It is a hard job. You get to choose how you suffer in this life and how you struggle.
And so, here is the question. Do you want to struggle having a hard job that people get really upset about? There’s people who have strong emotional feelings about their pets and how their pets are treated. You are going to deal with people who are having the worst days of their life. You’re going to deal with high-stake situations. You’re going to deal with death, but you’re going to do work that matters. Do you want to struggle and suffer that way?
Or do you want to have a job that nobody cares whether or not you actually make the widget? No one’s ever going to know whether or not you showed up for your shift in whatever big warehouse. That’s suffering as well. Because you’re doing work that doesn’t matter. Or you’re doing work that nobody cares about. Or they don’t care very much about.
There’s not a right answer and there’s not a wrong answer. I’m not trying to crap on anybody’s job. But at some point, we chose a hard job. And the alternative is choose a not hard job or a not important job. Or a job that does not affect other people in the deep way that we affect pet owners. And that’s your choice.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
For me, I think it depends on the day, which way I want to suffer. For the resounding majority of the time, I love doing the work that matters. But I definitely have my days that I wake up and I would rather go make widgets.
Dr. Andy Roark:
Sure. Of course. I think there’s truth to that as well. Life comes in waves, in phases. I’m not a big believer in the phrase of, “Work-life balance.” I don’t like that. When people say work-life balance, I imagine that I’m supposed to sleep for eight hours, I’m supposed to work for eight hours. I’m supposed to be detached with my family for eight hours.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
Sure.
Dr. Andy Roark:
That’s too many hours. No, that’s right. All right. Cool. But that’s how it’s broken up. You do this and you do this. My life has never worked that way. Everything has bled over into other things. I think that’s how it is.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
I think I hear you talk about work-life integration?
Dr. Andy Roark:
Yes. It is very much starting to think about what kind of life do you want to have and how does it work. My big thing when I look at work life integration is your life is complicated and there’s no balance. It doesn’t work that way. But the way that it looks like for me is there’s tides. Think of ocean tides. You have high tides and low tides and they come in phases. And that’s just been how my life has always worked.
I can’t comment on other people’s lives, but mine is for sure. Sometimes there are high tides. What that means is we’re working all the time. And sometimes it’s low tides and we get to relax. Remember when you went to vet school and you got your butt kicked in the first year? That’s high tide. Remember your first year if you did an internship? Or your first year as a new vet? That’s high tide.
When you’re three or four years in, perhaps you’re going to organize your life and say, “Hey. I’m comfortable now. I’ve got a number of years of experience. I’m going to take this year and just practice and not push myself to new things.” Or maybe you say, “Hey. I’ve been out five years. I’m going to buy this vet practice and it’s going to be a huge …” That’s a high tide. We don’t always get to choose when our high tides and low tides are. But I think that’s really important. You should always pay attention to that.
Yes. You’re not going to feel every day, “This is how I’m going to suffer. This is what I want to do. I’m going to keep the pedal to the metal.” I don’t think that’s sustainable either. But I think there’s times in our lives. I’m not talking about three hours. I’m not talking about three weeks. I’m talking about a year where you’re going to lean in and you’re going to work and this is going to be kind of a burden that you’re going to carry.
And then, hopefully, you’re going to set your life up so that you have some time to lean back a little bit and maybe have a low tide. When things kind of roll along in a more organized, less stressful way. But anyway, that’s how it’s been for me. Things go well in six months. I’m kind of laid back. And then, a year, I’ll work really hard.
And then, another year, you say, “Well, I’ve figured some things out. I’ve got a good job. I’m comfortable here. I’m just going to kind of do this and live my life.” And then, something else will come along and the tide will rise again. I can handle stressful times. And I’m okay with feeling, “God. I’m working all the time,” as long as I believe there’s a path ahead. I’m going somewhere.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
Right. There’s a light at the end of the tunnel.
Dr. Andy Roark:
Exactly. If you’re working and you’re like, “I’m working all the time and there’s no way out for me. I do not see this changing,” I think that’s a really dark place to be. If you’re saying, “I’m working really hard right now, because I’m onboarding new assistants and front desk staff.” You go, “God, I’m working so hard,” but you’re going to get them onboarded.
You’re going to get them trained. And then, you’re going to be able to step back and breathe a little bit. That’s a much happier, friendlier place than, “I’m working really hard and this is my life forever.” I think that when people find themselves mentally in that second place, that’s a dark place that a lot of people are.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
That’s where we start to go to burnout.
Dr. Andy Roark:
Exactly. That’s where we start to get a burnout. Anyway, there are adjustments we can make if you get into that place. When we talk about people working hard, burnout is not about working hard. Burnout is about looking ahead at the future and what you see. There’s this book called … I think it’s called Lone Survivor. So it’s an army book. Mark Wahlberg was in a movie called Lone Survivor.
Anyway, in the book it’s interesting, because this guy’s true story of his life. He’s a Navy SEAL and he talks about the Navy SEAL training. And so, they go through this really intense crazy training. It’s like 10 weeks long. Basically, the last week, they call it Hell Week and it’s just awful. You don’t sleep for a week and it’s just complete brutality.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
Oh my gosh.
Dr. Andy Roark:
He tells his story and what happens is they go through nine weeks of grueling training and they get to the 10th week, which is Hell Week. They have this bell. And if you ring the bell, it means you quit and you drop out of the training. And so, they’re always trying to get people to ring the bell, because they want them to drop out. So that only the best of the best of the best get through this thing.
Anyway, the guy tells the story about how on the first day of Hell Week, more people rang that bell than had rang it in the previous nine weeks. Later on, he was talking to one of the instructors and he said, “That was really weird. Because here we were and it was the first day of Hell Week. We have had harder days. Absolutely, had harder days than the first day of Hell Week, but all these guys dropped out on the first day of Hell Week. Why is that?”
The instructor said, “Because it’s not the day that broke them. It’s the knowledge that there are six more days ahead. That’s what broke them.” And that’s the same thing in vet medicine, where there’s not a hard day that’s going to break you. But if you believe that there’s nothing but hard days ahead, that’s what drags you down and holds you there. And so, it’s really not about that, “What I did today.” It’s about the idea that there’s not a light at the end of the tunnel that I’m going towards.
If you’re looking at your life and you’re looking at your career, I need you to believe that things are going to get better. I need you to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Even if you have to make that light. Even if it’s, “I’m going to do this for three months.” And if they’re not able to hire more people to help me, I am going to go and tell them, “Hey. I am changing my work schedule, because I can’t keep this up.”
Or in three months, if they don’t have some help, I’m going to leave. You go, “That’s awful.” I go, “It’s not awful.” It’s me being honest about what I’m capable of and what’s possible. Remember, at some point, I think the biggest lesson that veterinarians need to learn right now is you need to look in the mirror and you need to start to think about capacity.
Your capacity is your ability to actually do work. How much can you handle? Your desire to help people cannot outshine your capacity. It can’t. Not in a ongoing way. There are some days that I give more than I have. I suck it up and I grip my teeth and I do it. I can’t do that for a year.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
Right.
Dr. Andy Roark:
I can do it for a day. I can do it maybe for a week. Maybe three weeks. I can’t live my life this way. That’s just how it is. At some point, you have to believe that you can’t pour from an empty cup. You can’t feed from an empty pantry. If you don’t have it to give, you can’t give it. And so, the question then is, “What is your goal?” What is your measuring stick?
What happens is a lot of people get the wrong measuring stick in their mind. They say, “How much good can I do today?” And that’s the measuring stick they have. And that’s the wrong measuring stick. The right measuring stick is, “How much good can I do in my career?” And that’s really important.
Because if you give of yourself and you give of yourself and you give of yourself and you burn out and you leave the profession in four years … The amount of good you did is tiny compared to had you set some boundaries and you worked for 30 years, because you didn’t burn out.
The overall amount of good that you do is significantly greater by you saying, “No.” Setting some boundaries. Deciding, “This is what I’m able to do. I’m sorry. This is all I have to give.” Keeping that in a sustainable way. Too many of us, we help ourselves out of the profession and that’s a problem.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
I feel you’re in my head right now. For some reason, I feel like every time we talk you say exactly what I need to hear. This is no exception. Because I’ve been in both of those spots. I’ve been in a clinical capacity where I’m like, “This is never going to get any better.”
But then, take it on the flip side. I’ve talked about my mobile practice on the podcast before and I’ve been working really hard on it lately. Really hard. And it has to do with clients, but a lot of it has to do with paperwork and automations and all of these different things. It’s been a lot. To the point where I’m like, “I don’t know how much longer I can keep this up,” but there is that light at the end of the tunnel.
Dr. Andy Roark:
There’s got to be.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
There is that to finish it. It’s a totally different feeling dealing with that than it is that clinical, “This is never going to get any better.” I say clinical, because that’s what the experience was for me.
Dr. Andy Roark:
Sure.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
Talking about that work-life integration, it made me think about my kids. One of the things I like to talk about is walking that line as a parent. I want to be the mom for my kids that’s there for what they need.
Dr. Andy Roark:
Sure.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
I want to show up to their games and their concerts and whatever they have going on and make sure that they can live this full happy childhood. But at the same time, I also want to be this good example of … I’m speaking from a woman’s perspective of this person who goes and I have goals and I have aspirations and I work hard and I attain them. Man, it is such a balancing act. Your high tide and low tide example, I was like, “I identify with that a lot.”
Dr. Andy Roark:
Totally. High tide is dance season. When your kid is on three dance teams and they do this thing, but it’s a season. Some people are like, “That’s my whole life.” I go, “We need to talk about capacity.”
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
Yes. Yes.
Dr. Andy Roark:
But if you’re like, “This is what we do. We’ve got Monday, Wednesday, and Friday dance. It’s three months out of the year,” or whatever. You decide this is important. Let’s high tide. We’re going to buckle down. We’re going to pull together as a family.
We’re going to talk about logistics and how we get this thing done. We’re going to do some time management. We’re going to do it with the idea that we’re going to do this. And then, we’re going to step back and, “Kids. You can do something else, but it’s going to be one night a week.”
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
There you go.
Dr. Andy Roark:
After that. That’s exactly what I’m talking about as far as high tides and low tides. It may not be possible to say two nights a week per kid per activity in perpetuity. That’s what happens. No. Sometimes it’s five nights a week for a couple of months. And then, we go down to one night a week.
But my big thing is you need to intentionally go back down to one night a week and say, “This is low tide.” Intentionally. And then, in three months, six months, or whatever, we’re going to step back up and this new thing is going to start. We’re going to pick it back up from there.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
Also, taking turns like, “It’s dance season, so we’re going to do Monday, Wednesday, Friday.” And then, we’re going to have competitions on the weekend and we’re going to travel. And then, end that.
Okay. I’ve put some of the work aside, because I’ve really tried to focus on this and be present for this. Well, now I need to focus here a little bit more and I need to spend some time on myself, on my business. Whatever it is.
Dr. Andy Roark:
There are two pieces of that. One is that we’re relaxing in some rigidity of how we think things are supposed to be. Buying into the integration part, I think, is key. You’re working on your mobile practice and everything.
Cassie, there’s nothing wrong with working your butt off, and then stopping at 3:00 PM and receiving your kids from school. Doing the stuff you want to do with them and hanging out and helping them with homework and having some relaxing time and whatever. And then, picking your laptop back up at nine o’clock at night and banging on.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
You are describing so much.
Dr. Andy Roark:
Exactly. Banging on another 90 minutes of work before you go to bed. That’s not wrong. If that works, because the kids go to bed at 8:30, I’m going to work from 8:30 to 10:00. Not every night, but three nights. Monday, Wednesday, Friday. This is my plan. Or just tonight. I’ve got stuff I need to do. I’m going to pick this back up. It’s not failing.
I think a lot of us, we set in our minds, “I’m going to work from 8:00 to 5:00.” And then, I’m going to be a mom or a dad from 5:00 to 9:00. And then, I’m going to relax in the bathtub from 9:00 to 10:00. And then, that’s going to be my day. When that doesn’t happen because, “Hey. I need to be a mom from noon today on.” Or, “I need to be a dad from noon today, because it’s a half-day at school for some unknown reason.”
I got dumped on it. Or, “I’m going to clock out and go to this 11:00 AM dance recital on Wednesday that the school is putting on.” I’m going to do it, because it’s what’s expected to me, but I’m not going to beat myself up about it. I think a lot of us, we do the thing it takes to be a good parent and we feel guilty about it the whole time.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
I feel like we have to justify it.
Dr. Andy Roark:
100%.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
I went to the thing, but I went back to my laptop. Nobody cares. Nobody cares.
Dr. Andy Roark:
Exactly.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
Did you get the work done?
Dr. Andy Roark:
Did you get the work done? I run a company. We do business conferences, business development, things like that. We have unlimited vacation and I don’t care when you work. And so, that’s how the business is set up. The way that we run it that way is … I’m very problem-focused. Being like, “Hey, Cassie. I need you to fix this problem.” And that’s it. That’s it.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
I don’t care how you fix it, when you’re going to fix it, how long it takes you.
Dr. Andy Roark:
I don’t care if you do it at four in the morning as long as you don’t call me. I don’t care if you do it four in the morning as long as you do it. But if that works in your life, I think that’s great. I think there’s a lot of rigidity around our schedules that have been kind of imposed over time.
Again, I know that’s not feasible. You can’t have a vet clinic that’s just open whenever we feel like being there. However, I still think there’s a lot of things in our lives where we can say, “Am I supposed to be unplugged from my work from 3:00 PM to 6:00 PM? Yes or no?” Or am I supposed to be engaged with my kids and making sure that I’m giving them quality time and my attention?
The latter is much more flexible. There’s so many more ways to do this. But if it’s, “I’m supposed to be off work from 3:00 PM to 6:00 PM,” there’s only one way to do that. And it’s wildly, rigidly inflexible. I don’t understand why the goal is to be unavailable from 3:00 to 6:00 PM. What is that?
It’s a made-up construct. We put this on ourselves and we act like we’re failing if we’re not available. I think that’s a dumb idea. No one’s like, “Mom. I really wish you’d been available from 3:00 to 6:00 PM.” No one’s like, “Mom, I wish you’d …”
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
I really appreciate that 7:00 to 8:00. But man, the 3:00 to 6:00 is what I needed.
Dr. Andy Roark:
Exactly. That’s what I mean. But your kid is never going to look you in the eye and go, “You know what really mattered to me? That 4:30 meeting thing you canceled.” What matters is the relationship that we have. It’s funny. I’ve been through periods in my life where I beat myself up because I was working too hard. And then, I cut back and I beat myself up, because I wasn’t working hard enough. You know what I mean?
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
Right. Yes.
Dr. Andy Roark:
At some point, I was like, “This is ridiculous.” I’m beating myself up for being with my family and I’m beating myself up for not being with my family. I’m beating myself up for working. I’m beating myself up for not working. I’m like, “Andy. How is this sustainable?” You know what I mean?
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
I do know what you’re saying. And I hope this talk helps a lot of people out there. Because, yes, that is 100% me. And it’s so comforting to know that I’m not the only one that’s doing that.
Dr. Andy Roark:
No. No. I don’t think you are. We’re all hard-driving people. I think a lot of it is stepping back. For me, that whole thing of we choose how we suffer. I think a lot of it’s stepping back and saying, “What is possible? What is important? What am I trying to accomplish here?” I think most of us never stopped and said, “What am I trying to accomplish?”
Honestly, think about how many veterinarians went to vet school. They learned the thing and they were like, “Hey, professors. What am I supposed to do?” The professor is like, “You should do an internship.” They’re like, “All right. I’m going to do an internship.” And then, they’re like, “Hey, internship. What am I supposed to do?”
They’re like, “You should get a job.” You’re like, “I’m getting a job. Hey, boss. What am I supposed to do?” “You’re supposed to see 20 appointments a day forever.” You’re like, “I’m doing it.” At any point, did you stop and say, “What do I want to get out of this deal?”
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
I think there’s a term, micro-flexibilities, that basically is saying, we have two income households and there’s a lot of things going on and things are really busy. Like you said, to not hold to these very rigid schedules. To say, “I’m going to take an hour here. I’m going to take an hour there and focus on that.” And not beat yourself up for it. Not feel like you have to justify it to yourself or other people. That’s where I really struggled.
Dr. Andy Roark:
Well, I think the biggest thing for me in making that happen was intentionality. I think a lot of us are very comfortable with the idea of intentionality and planning in our job, but we don’t think that intentionality and planning in our personal life is a thing that we do. I’ll give you the simplest of examples. Life-changing thing for me is my Sunday meeting with my wife.
On Sundays, we’re pretty darn religious about it at this point. On Sundays, we look at the calendar for the coming week and say, “What are we doing for meals? What are you doing in the evening? What am I doing? Where do the kids need to be? Let’s all get on the same page.” What I have found is, again, you choose how you suffer. I can make time and have this meeting on Sunday and get my calendar out and sit with my wife in a way that feels kind of weird … Because I’m like, “Check your availability.”
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
It’s so true though. We do the same thing, but we don’t do it religiously on Sunday. I hope my husband doesn’t listen to this, because he’ll be like, “That is a brilliant idea.”
Dr. Andy Roark:
Well, I tell you. You choose how you suffer. You can either do the awkward meeting on Sundays and make time for it. Or you can have fights on Thursday. Because they’re like, “I thought you were going to take her to gymnastics.” You can have these sacrifices that you can’t see. They’re not in your calendar. “Fight with my wife,” is not on my calendar at any point, I promise. I did not schedule that.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
No. We’ve talked about other things not being sustainable in the long term. I know nobody wants to fight with their spouse on a regular basis.
Dr. Andy Roark:
Exactly. When I say fight, we’re being overly dramatic.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
Sure.
Dr. Andy Roark:
But it is that … Not necessarily a fight, but you feel your cortisol spike and you feel the stress. You’re like, “I’m not around tonight to do this thing that you are asking me to do.” They’re frustrated, because their plan is not going and it feels like a fight. Even though you’re both rooting for each other and you’re both being understandable.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
Right. You don’t want to let the other person down.
Dr. Andy Roark:
Exactly right. You don’t want to let the other person down in any way. Everybody understands that emotional feeling.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
Sure.
Dr. Andy Roark:
But it really comes back town to you pick your battles. One of my favorite sayings is … A lot of things I talk about in the clinic just apply to regular life. But in the clinic, one of my favorite sayings is, “If there’s something that happens in your clinic again and again and again that surprises you, at some point, it’s not a surprise. It’s your business model.”
If you end up with clients standing around at the end of the day and you’re trying to close the door and they’re like, “No. I walked in here. I’m staying here.” If that happens one time, you deal with it. If it happens once a month, you deal with it. If it happens three times a week, it’s your business model. Having people standing in your lobby at the end of the day.
You can either just accept that that’s what your business model is and be okay with it and make sure your staff is okay with it. Or you can make changes to address it. But acting like, “I can’t believe people are standing in the lobby again.” At some point, you go, “Why can you not believe that? It happens all the time.” Same thing is true in our personal lives.
At some point, if I look around on Wednesdays and I’m like, “What do you mean I’m supposed to take her? You’re supposed to take her.” If I’m arguing with my wife every Wednesday about kid transport, at some point, I’m the doofus who hasn’t figured out yet that Wednesday kid transport is a problem, and we need to sort it out intentionally and figure out how we’re going to get this done.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
I feel like we’ve come full circle here with the intentionality. I feel like a lot of it does come down to intentionality in our self-talk. How we think about ourselves and how we talk to ourselves. How we express that to people.
Because whether or not it should be important, and I think we’ve determined that it is … Just that it can offer a lot of peace when you sit down and have that self-reflection or that Sunday meeting. Or whatever it is. To really know where you stand and you’re not just kind of flailing.
Dr. Andy Roark:
I think that’s really important. It’s validating yourself and it’s validating your spouse. You know what I mean? It’s saying, “Hey. I see you working hard.” It’s funny. If you take a second and think, “What’s really important in your life?” Is it your net promoter score as a veterinarian? Or is it how your spouse feels about you? You might say, “Well, it’s how my spouse feels about me.”
I go, “Well, your spouse probably feels the same way. When’s the last time you told your spouse that they’re crushing it?” When was the last time you told your spouse, “Hey. I just want you to know. There’s no measuring stick for this, but I want you to know that you’re succeeding. You’re winning.” We don’t get a lot of that. And I think that’s a problem.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
Sure. Sure. Absolutely. I know I can think about that. My husband’s great about having those little kudos moments and stuff.
Dr. Andy Roark:
Good.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
And it really changes my whole day.
Dr. Andy Roark:
That’s awesome. It’s like in vet medicine a lot. There is no scenario where everything in the clinic runs smoothly. There’s chaos baked into the bread. In vet medicine, there’s too many things out of your control. There’s emergencies. There’s people walking in.
Pets get sick. They can’t control pet owners. You know what I mean? I think we can kid ourselves that, “I’ll get this figured out and there’ll be a system and people will show up on time for their appointments,” and blah, blah.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
Wait. That doesn’t happen?
Dr. Andy Roark:
It’s never going to happen.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
That’s a lie I tell myself.
Dr. Andy Roark:
We tell ourselves a lie. It’s never going to happen. It’s never going to happen. We need to just go along with the idea that there is chaos. There’s going to be some chaos, but I can still be intentional. I can still try to set myself up for success. I can still adapt based on what happens, but I don’t know.
I think that chaos can be fun and it can be rewarding. It’s part of what we are. If you feel like you’re failing because there’s chaos, I think that you are failing because vet medicine is vet medicine. That’s just what it is.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
No. I very much relate to that statement. Control the things that you can control and that allows you to lean into the chaos a little bit and have fun with it. My day got totally derailed this past Tuesday, where I had a full schedule and then I had multiple emergencies walk in. Literally dying. It just was what it was. But because the rest of it was controlled and we knew what to expect, we dealt with it. We did a lot of good.
Dr. Andy Roark:
Well, I have a niche analogy for this. I’ll give it and that’s maybe where we’ll wrap up. I don’t know if other people appreciate this, but I’ll tell you this. If you think about your team at the vet clinic, your vet team, it’s The Muppet Show. It’s The Muppet Show.
When you think about The Muppet Show, there’s two kinds of Muppets. There’s Order Muppets and there’s Chaos Muppets. The Chaos Muppets are the ones who, they’re riding bulls. They’re trying to change the show on the last minute. It’s Gonzo shooting himself out of the cannon without any practice. No targeting. Complete chaos.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
Sure.
Dr. Andy Roark:
And then, there’s the Order Muppets, which are like Scooter. They have the clipboard. They’re like, “No. This has to go and these people have to go.” The whole Muppet Show is a battle between the Chaos Muppets and the Order Muppets, and they battle for control.
Every single episode of The Muppet Show is Chaos versus Order, and Kermit the Frog is the linchpin. He’s in the middle. His job is to balance the Order Muppets and the Chaos Muppets. He’s always just about overwhelmed. And then, he pulls it out. And so, if The Muppet Show was a basketball game, every single show, the score would be Chaos, 98. Frog, 99. That’s how The Muppet Show works.
That’s your vet clinic. Every day is this chaos and you’ve got the Chaos Muppets, and you’ve got the Order Muppets. You need them both. You can’t just have the Order Muppets. The Chaos Muppets, they exist. They’re real. They may be pet owners that come in from the outside, but they’re going to bring that chaos.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
Chaos Muppets. This is what I’m going to start calling pet owners.
Dr. Andy Roark:
They are Chaos Muppets. And there’s people like me who are completely Chaos Muppets. I am 100% in that regard. But it’s funny. We do this thing, and I hear it all the time in business. People talk about, “I want my practice to be Disney.” You think about the Disney princesses. Everybody shows up where they’re supposed to, and they’re all put together and they’re beautiful. And this is how it goes. This is the time.
The Prince shows up as they’re supposed to. That is not how this works. It’s not Disney. It’s The Muppet Show. And so, if you own that and go, “It’s The Muppet Show,” it makes everything feel okay. Because the expectation is not, “This is Disney and a well-oiled machine. Everyone is on their spots and they’re all hitting their cues.” It’s like, “Nope. This is chaos.” We’re going to pull it out. Chaos, 98. Frog, 99.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
I love that. It just makes it so much more fun. I’ve been guilty of feeling like I’m failing when the Chaos Muppets take over. I’m going, “Wait. Why don’t we have systems for this? Why didn’t I foresee this?” It’s good to know that that’s just reality.
Dr. Andy Roark:
Sure.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
And that’s okay.
Dr. Andy Roark:
Well, you should keep making systems. You should keep making systems. The Order Muppets have to keep working.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
Because the Chaos Muppets will.
Dr. Andy Roark:
They will. Exactly right. They will manifest as different chaos. The difference in a thriving business and in a thriving life, and a struggling business or a struggling life is … In a thriving business, you tackle a new problem every day. In a struggling business, you have the same problem every day.
And that is the difference in a thriving life and a thriving business and a struggling life and a struggling business. If you are dealing with the same problems again and again, you’re in trouble. If you’re dealing with new problems, you’re living a healthy life. Because there is no scenario where you don’t get problems. And then, this goes back to the quagmire we were talking about before. Is there a light at the end of the tunnel?
The truth is, if you’re solving new problems, there’s a light at the end of the tunnel. If you’re back in the same problem every day, that’s the struggle bus. Because you’re doing the same problem over and over again. Anyway, the answer is not a life without problems. The answer is a life with new problems every day.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
Do you have four more hours? Because I could sit here and continue to pick your brain for double that, but I promise I would cut it off at four hours.
Dr. Andy Roark:
No. I’ve got a massive conference to explore here.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
It is massive. Goodness. We’ve been having all kinds of fun with people coming and taking pictures and making faces in the fishbowl.
Dr. Andy Roark:
If at any point, I lost my train of thought, it was because someone was making faces at me through the glass from outside. That’s happened a couple of times.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
I think we did a pretty good job of maintaining our focus. Despite the Chaos Muppets.
Dr. Andy Roark:
I hope so. I hope so.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
Well, Andy, this has been great. Thank you so much for coming and sitting down with me in the booth. I hope we get to do it again.
Dr. Andy Roark:
Sure.
Dr. Cassi Fleming:
We don’t even have to turn the microphones on. Every time you talk, it seems to be exactly what I need to hear. I’m not alone in that. I think this will be what a lot of people need to hear.
Dr. Andy Roark:
Well, thanks for saying so. And that’s it, guys. That’s what I got for you. Thanks again to the team at VetFolio Voice for letting me share this with you. Like I said, I hope you’ll check out their podcast. They’re great people doing great work. Man, what a wonderful experience it was to work with them. Anyway, guys. Take care of yourselves. Be well. I’ll talk to you soon.
