Dr. Matt Asciutto explores the power of comedy in veterinary medicine as he applies the “yes, and” principle from his improv comedy background to enhance client and team interactions. Dr. Roark shares how humor has shaped his approach to the profession. Together, they discuss how comedy can bring light to even the darkest moments in veterinary practice, ultimately making them more effective veterinarians. Join them on this episode of the Cone of Shame podcast as they share laughs and insights in a conversation filled with humor and heart.
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ABOUT OUR GUEST
Matt Asciutto spent many years performing improv comedy, designing polymers, and teaching MCAT for Kaplan before pursuing an incredibly sensible career in veterinary medicine.
A 2017 graduate of the College of Veterinary Medicine at The University of Tennessee, Dr. Asciutto has been working as a full-time emergency relief veterinarian since 2018, working for over 35 hospitals and traveling across 6 states to get there.
When he isn’t working, Matt can be found making good use of his National Parks Annual Pass, incessantly bothering his fiancé with opinions about everything, and collecting an unreasonable number of guitars and surfboards. These days he spends far too much time attempting to start a de novo practice in Fort Collins, CO, editing his upcoming book, or endlessly droning on about his podcast: The Greatest Profession.
EPISODE TRANSCRIPT
Dr. Andy Roark: Welcome everybody to the Cone of Shame veterinary podcast. I am your host, Dr. Andy Roark. Guys, I got a great one today with Dr. Matthew Asciutto. This is real fun. And so we start off talking about his career as a relief, a traveling relief emergency veterinarian. And what that’s like. And that kind of dovetails into sort of his backstory with improv comedy.
And so then we sort of started to start talking about what– how improv comedy sort of actually works in practice. And, the lessons he learned from that and what he takes into his emergency practice today. And it’s just, it’s a really, very fun look at practice in general, and we talk a bit about comedy and humor.
Not homedy. We talk about comedy and humor. Anyway, guys, if you like to laugh, that is amazing. If you like to imagine interesting professions where, I don’t know, maybe you do emergency in the middle of a metropolitan area, and then next week you’re in the middle of nowhere yeah, this is a great episode.
Guys, let’s get into it.
Kelsey Beth Carpenter: (singing) This is your show. We’re glad you’re here. We want to help you in your veterinary career. Welcome to the Cone of Shame with Dr. Andy Roark.
Dr. Andy Roark: Welcome to the podcast. Dr. Matthew Asciutto. How are you?
Dr. Matt Asciutto: I’m doing all right. Thanks for having me
Dr. Andy Roark: Man, I’m, so glad you’re here. I I love getting to know you this year. We, you know, I’ve gotten to talk a number of times and I you fall into that camp of people where I’m like, I, this is someone I just enjoy talking to and I feel awkward just calling him like when I’m walking my dog And so I’m just gonna send him an email and say can I podcast with you?
And then that will let me that will let me have the conversation I want. For those who don’t know you for the last six years you have been a traveling ER relief veterinarian So you have a company called Bendel Vet and you fly is a base. It’s all over the U.S. Right you?
Dr. Matt Asciutto: Yeah. Right now it’s mostly North Carolina, Virginia. And then I was doing like kind of all over.
Dr. Andy Roark: but you live in Colorado. You’re in
Fort Collins.
Dr. Matt Asciutto: Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And I’ve never practiced here. I am licensed in Colorado. practiced in the state.
Dr. Andy Roark: You’ve never practiced in the state you live in. That’s fun. That’s interesting. You are, but you will, because you are starting your own emergency clinic in Fort Collins. You want to tell me about that real quick?
Dr. Matt Asciutto: Yeah. I mean, the idea is that basically all these things that I’ve learned from all these hospitals and traveling around, I’m like, well, we can do it better. And at some point I decided, I guess I have to actually try. Yeah.
Dr. Andy Roark: I will tell you, true story, that’s how I the Uncharted Veterinary Conference, is I, for like 15 years, I spoke at conferences all over the world, and I felt like some of them were amazing. And I would sit on the plane and I would be like, Why was that so amazing? Like, what did they do? What were the circumstances that made that amazing?
And other times, I would fly away and I was like, Oh,
Dr. Matt Asciutto: Right.
Dr. Andy Roark: I wish I could have that four days back. That was rare. That was rare, but, you could definitely, just in all candor, you could, like, some events you just go, that was incredible. I mean, it’s like in life, where you’ve gone to some parties and you’ve been like, that was a great party, and you’ve been to other parties, you’re like, I’m, it’s 8 30.
I’m ready to leave. so,
Dr. Matt Asciutto: There’s like certain weddings like that in my life where I’m just like, that was fantastic. I’m going to remember that moment forever. And then others were like, what happened?
Dr. Andy Roark: Yes, and it doesn’t, it does not correlate to the wedding spend. I think that’s really important to note. I have been to, I have, one of my favorite weddings was in someone’s backyard and it slapped. It was just a great time. And I have been to crazy over the top mega weddings and been like, oh, you know,
Dr. Matt Asciutto: Yeah.
Dr. Andy Roark: that was a thing.
Dr. Matt Asciutto: Yeah. And similarly, I mean, when I’m thinking about all these, you know, hospitals, one with the fancy toys and all that kind of stuff, there’s pieces of it that are great. And then there’s pieces of it that are not so great. And you can take all those little things.
And if you, I don’t know, if you think that you have enough of a point of view, trying to institute it yourself seems to be the thing to do so I’m doing it.
Dr. Andy Roark: I think that’s always been my position with relief vets in general. Like, if you see yourself as a possible practice owner in the future, start up, starting up a practice, go and be a relief vet for a year or two. And, you just see how everybody does it. And you very quickly will be like, I like that PIM system.
I do not like this PIM system. I like that approach in the exam room or like the, or the way they leverage their technicians and not the way they do it. It’s just, if you just go to vet school and then you go to one place, that’s kind of all, you know, just, but that, that sample platter of being able to go and look at how different people do things.
I mean, so in, in the practices that you’ve called on as an, as a relief emergency vet, How much variability have you seen in, in how these places run? Is it, night and day, they’re different countries, or is it like, no, you know, it’s a 10 percent grade?
Dr. Matt Asciutto: I would say it’s kind of more the former than the latter. I do think that there is, you know, there’s commonality, right? There’s common experience that we all have, especially when it comes to ER, right? Oh, it’s busy and we feel like we can’t see everything. And we’re questioning whether or not we’re doing the right medicine at the right time for these people in front of us.
Yeah. You and the rest of us, we all feel that way. Right? But the cool thing, I mean, the way that I did it is I just sort of said, yes to whatever opportunity came in front of me. And that was everything from, you know, high level specialty ERs in the middle of, you know, metropolitan areas to like overnight only ERs kind of in the middle of nowhere and then kind of everything in between.
Which then allows you to see, okay, well, what is the, what am I, what is required of me as a veterinarian? What is the expectation of the person across the way? And what’s the relationship to the referring community? All that stuff. Who are these people here? Every, everything ends up being kind of different in those ways.
Dr. Andy Roark: Okay. So, so going into the metropolitan area ER and then out into the sort of middle of nowhere ER,
do you think that having those two distinctly different experiences was, is that a plus for you? Was that a net neutral or was that like a detriment where you were like, man, it was just a different world and things that I had learned didn’t carry over?
Like, so yeah. So tell me on the idea that this was, it sounds like it was positive. Tell me on the idea that what you learned in. You know, downtown Chicago was helped you in easily South Carolina.
Dr. Matt Asciutto: Yeah, I think that what you see in real time is, you know, this thing that’s being thrown around now is this like spectrum of care and things like that. But, you know, when I’m downtown, if I’m, you know, outside of Washington, D. C. I’m going to be elevating to the specialists for every small thing, right? And there is this sort of downside that exists in that, which is then you kind of, I don’t know, you lose confidence in yourself a little bit.
When you constantly have to sort of refer up and out, right? Whereas when you’re in the middle of nowhere and the nearest surgeon is three hours away. You’re like, well, I guess I’m the surgeon, right? And I can use everything that I’ve seen from the people who, you know, have all the letters who go to all the big conferences.
I can use all of that as best, you know, as best as I can to these, other locations, right? And so for me, it’s kind of a, it’s a big, it’s a About application of that spectrum, but it’s also about like, Hey, look, I can do this too. And then, you know, by doing the things you sort of say, oh, okay, I can do it.
I’d never want to do it again. Right.
Dr. Andy Roark: so no, I love it. So it’s funny I don’t I’m gonna get myself in trouble here, but I don’t mean to but it’s almost like so I started practicing in DC outside of Washington DC and there very much was this belief that I could punt so Easily like there was just six other referral places around us And I can that was some of the culture too is you just punt it up You know, it was funny that the culture was very much like yeah, sure Just send it up And, if you don’t watch out, you can be, you can fall into this mindset of like the kid who defers to the grownups in the room, you mean?
Of like, Oh yeah, you know, we’re gonna, we’re gonna, I’m going to get, I’m going to appeal to an authority figure here. I’m going to get a grownup as opposed to when you’re out in the middle of nowhere, that’s it. It’s like, there are no grownups. You better figure out your own problems. And again, I don’t mean to push that too, far, but I will tell you that the veterinarians that I have seen,
seen who are just, I mean, kind of James Harriet style. they’re all the rural veterinarians. And, like, I’ve heard that again and again, as the people, they’re like, yeah, I can, I’ll totally do these surgeries or those surgeries. And I’ll say, how did you kind of get started doing that?
And they were like, well, there was no other option. And I told people I’m not the right guy, but I’m the only guy you got. Do you still want to do this?
Dr. Matt Asciutto: Right. That’s exactly it. It becomes out of necessity and same with working overnights. Even if you are in the middle of kind of a, like, Hey, there is a specialty hospital, even that you’re working in it for whatever reason you can’t call people in, it’s like, it’s just you. And I started doing relief so early in my career.
I had so much of the. Am I doing this right? Like there’s, I need somebody to tell me that I’m doing it right. But in doing overnights, you’re just like, I guess it’s me. Like, there are no other people that I can talk to. So I have to make this decision.
Dr. Andy Roark: Yeah. Unless someone comes back and tells you didn’t do it right, you’re like, I guess I pulled that off.
Dr. Matt Asciutto: Right. Exactly. Yeah. And then there’s the comfort of like, if you are in one of these specialty hospitals, you can then ask in the morning, am I a moron? Did I do this right? Would you have done something different?
Dr. Andy Roark: Exactly right! When the internist comes in, oh, that would be hard for me. Every morning, I’d be like, oh. I would want to know, but also I would just not want to know. But I would want to know.
Dr. Matt Asciutto: Which is why, honestly, I approach it that way. I mean, this is sort of the benefit of then adding levity and humor and the things that you do, right? If I come in and be like, hi, am I an idiot? Did I do something? But I’m, you know, tongue in cheek. I’m saying this, right? I mean, the idea is it’s like, I’m approachable.
I’m not taking myself too seriously in this moment. I want to know. And also you’ve been there as an internist, you know what it’s like to be the, you know, intern or somebody early on in your career who has no idea what they’re doing. Who just has to do something.
Dr. Andy Roark: Well, I love I think you’re spot on like that is really how you get coached is if you put out the vibe of I’m, not taking myself too seriously like generally or genuinely, what do you think? You know, what are you going to do with this? And what should I have maybe consider what should I consider next time?
But again that I do like that No, i’m Like, I’m an idiot. just lay it on me. What should I do? but they’ll laugh, and then they’ll give you honest feedback as opposed to, you know it’s hard when you’re a specialist and there’s a GP that hands you a case and you’re looking at it and you’re like, Do I tell them that this was not what I would have done?
Do I just smile and roll with it? And, you kind of take that off their shoulders of like, Alright, lay it on me. What, how would you approach this differently?
Dr. Matt Asciutto: Yeah. Yeah. Cause they’re human beings and it’s always awkward to tell somebody else, Hey, you did something wrong or, Hey, you got kale in your teeth. Right. It’s just like, these are awkward things, but if I ask you, Hey, do I have kale in my teeth?
Dr. Andy Roark: Yeah. I have a hundred percent said to my technicians. Look, if I ever look stupid, like I’ve got like a booger or like, like just, I expect, just tell me to please just tell me. And I just, I was like, that’s like ground rules. If I ever come to work at your practice on day one, I’ll be like, look, I don’t take myself very seriously. If I’m doing something dumb or I’m wearing something dumb, it’s probably not intentional. Just tell me.
Dr. Matt Asciutto: Yes, which is how I as a relief vet have approached and I feel like found my place within, honestly, the industry, but within these jobs, you come in and you’re immediately the guest and as long as I come in sort of, like that. And yeah, a little lower in the shoulders and be like, Hey, I’m just a moron vet who’s doing my best.
You know what I mean? Like if I’m doing something silly, just tell me if I’m doing something that seems crazy, just tell me. And I think it’s helped me a lot.
Dr. Andy Roark: Well, I think that’s so important too. And so let me just say here, I don’t know of anyone who’s had a better background pre veterinary training to be able to just go into radically different hospitals and just, “yes, and” your way into what they’re doing. And so can you speak for that for a second?
So you, it’s not, okay. I do improv, like there’s a local improv theater. I make drunk people laugh on Friday nights. Like you have done real improv. Like tell me a little bit about your background with improv. And so talk to me about that and kind of the timeline between improv comedy and then veterinary medicine.
Dr. Matt Asciutto: Yeah. I mean, I will say that a lot of real improv is entertaining drunk people on Friday nights.
Dr. Andy Roark: Yeah, no, you don’t get away from that.
Dr. Matt Asciutto: Most of it. Yeah, exactly. Whether or not you’re doing it in like the theater or the comedy sports type. Yeah. It’s just drunk people on Fridays. Yeah. When I. I mean, truly, I started doing it in high school because people forced me to do it.
I had friends who would literally carry me to improv practice and we had a little high school team and it was a national comedy theater was the name of the group in San Diego. And they made me do it until one day I said, please stop carrying me. It’s embarrassing. I’ll go myself but that was most of that was probably junior.
No, that was sophomore year all the way through. And I don’t. I don’t know. You have no concept of that. But what it was, it something that kind of became a part of me? And so when I went to college, I felt like something was missing and I ended up auditioning for the same team, but the professional team that was there.
So National Comedy Theater in San Diego. This is, gosh, I guess 2003, 2004, whatever. And I stayed doing that. They hired me. They like, they said, sure, why not? Come on board. And I ended up, through the following seven years, doing improv with them for I started teaching at the high school league. I started, you know, being the person who was there to teach improv fridays and Saturday nights. And that was just my gig until we left for Chicago just as a kind of a life choice. And I’d realized actually, no backing up a little bit. I did. They gave– I had an opportunity to teach at an arts Academy. I was a teaching artist. That was an improv comedy, teaching artists as an arts Academy.
I’m trying to teach these kids how to do kind of more advanced improv. But I was just the fool who was, you know, doing the sportscaster games on a Friday night in front of drunk people. So I actually read all of the books, you know, truth and comedy and impro by Keith Johnstone and all that stuff.
I, to try to figure out what am I going to teach these kids. And so when later on we moved to Chicago, I thought I should probably figure out if I was right. So all of the places, so ImprovOlympic and Second City, which are kind of these Just major institutions in for, yeah.
Dr. Andy Roark: Yeah, they’re legendary.
Dr. Matt Asciutto: You know, they all have training programs as a part of them. And so I went into those training programs and I, you know, I have almost a, you know, seven years or whatever of improv experience behind me plus high school. And I come in and I’m immediately humbled by it. I thought I knew, but I guess I didn’t. And I thought I read this book the way that it was supposed to be, but then there’s all this nuance to it.
So then I spent the next, you know, probably year for both of those going through the training programs. And then I got into the house teams and you know, you kind of end up in this world where now you’re doing improv both in those institutions as well as around the city. And so it was phenomenal.
Then I decided to go to vet school. So I guess I actually got my master’s degree in chemistry or I was pursuing it kind of during that time as well. And so that was probably three years of doing improv in Chicago before leaving to Tennessee. My partner at the time got into vet school and then the year after that, I’m just like, well, I guess I’ll apply to, and that’s the timeline.
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So, talk to me about improv when you’re walking into these practices, right? So it seemed to me very much the story, what I heard you say was I kind of show up and then sort of “yes, and” my way into it. I was like, Oh, this is what we’re doing here. Okay.
Dr. Matt Asciutto: That’s exactly right.
Dr. Andy Roark: Gonna to do it.
Dr. Matt Asciutto: improv is all about the, all right, here we are. I’m going to agree to the circumstance, to agree the situation that we’re in, and I’m going to, you know, interact, right? I’m not going to be like, oh no, that’s not how I do it. I don’t, you know, I come into a practice like I don’t use cornerstone.
I have my own PIMS. You could never do it. So you have to sort of say, okay, what is going on here? And then how do I exist within this world that you’ve created? And that’s, I mean, that’s just improv.
Dr. Andy Roark: It was funny. I had a client today in the practice. And so I was talking to my technician. He was just kind of flustered and he was like, I’m not getting a straight answer, I’m not getting straight answers out of her. And I’m trying to remember what was going on with the dog. It was a senior dog, but it was like she he was going in and he was asking her questions like, is he peeing in the house?
And she says, well, he was, but then I got pee pads and now he just pees on them. So I guess not. And he was, yeah. He was really bothered by that. He was like, that’s not a straight answer. And I was like, look, you just, you’re going to have to roll with this. Like, you’re just going to have to nod your head.
But she gave about six answers like that. And he was just tied in knots. And I went in and I sat down and she was like, you know, that technician, I think my boy’s really taken to him. He’s genuinely a wonderful person. I came back out and said, well, you want to really be confused. She likes you a lot. But
Dr. Matt Asciutto: That’s amazing.
Dr. Andy Roark: It’s just like, I just, you like, you have to go in and just listen to the person and just kind of accept their worldview and then being like, okay, this is how we’re talking and this is what we’re doing. And I’m going to ask a lot of very specific questions before we go forward.
Dr. Matt Asciutto: Yeah. I, and I think that you’re right. I mean, especially with client communication, the other way that people talk about it is, you know, meeting people where they are and all that, but there is almost this kind of nuance that maybe you as also an improviser can see, which is that’s a bit that person’s doing right.
Dr. Andy Roark: Yeah.
Dr. Matt Asciutto: Like in any other circumstance, if you as a character were just to be like, I’m going to answer your question, but in like this most circuitous way possible, that is now a bit. And that’s the game. And one of the things that we kind of talked about in, you know, in, in Chicago, I guess this is like in the IO thing, but what is the game of the scene?
What is the game of this, you know, long form thing that we’re doing? We always come back to that. So, so yeah, you, as a doctor, if you were to want to, right. You could also do some things like we’re going to do medicine in this hospital, not necessarily in this room, but definitely within these walls. Sorry.
Dr. Andy Roark: That’s funny but I’d never thought of that. Every, like every, exam room is basically a scene and every, interaction is a bit, and it’s just, you know, like you’ll, have those clients and they will speak to you like their cat is their child and I’m not going to correct them and I’m not, you know, like I’m, I was like, all right, we’re doing cats as children.
That’s the game of the scene. All right. Well, let’s get them in here. All right. Are you saving for college? Cause that’s going to come at ya.
Dr. Matt Asciutto: That is so powerful because those things, if you can acknowledge just that little bit that they’re offering you, right, like they say, this cat is my child and then they just kind of keep doing it, it’s like fantastic. Now we have a whole list of exactly like saving for college cat toys or baby toys baby Bjorn carrying the cat around in the baby Bjorn, like, you know, all of these things you can now sprinkle in and that becomes now again, this bit that you’re doing with the client.
But really what it is. I’m listening to you, right? I’m here for you. We’re here together as two human beings talking, and now we can then make some recommendations about medicine, you know?
Dr. Andy Roark: You know, I, really, I love that you say this, right. And so, so one of the things I’ve been thinking a lot about, I’m just going to ask you about one of the things I’ve been thinking a lot about, Matthew, is like, there, there’s humor is so valuable in practice and the ability to smile and find humor in, in just sort of talking to people.
To me, it’s absolutely mission critical. It’s the only way I get through the day is just, it’s just, you know, Finding the humor, but yet, but you have to find a positive humor. I was looking at some social media stuff recently. And so there’s all these veterinarians that are sort of on Instagram and things like that.
And I wouldn’t throw any shade or anything at all, but those platforms have really morphed in my opinion to reward bad behavior in a lot of ways and the comedy, the humor in the vet space that seems to do well is generally kind of cutting humor. It’s about you know, I mean, it’s about sort of boy The clients are dumb or boy that the if it’s from technicians, it’s like boy the doctors are dumb and you know, and it’s just There’s just kind of a lot of that sort of honest kind of eye roll sort of humor. At least I see my impression is that is what gets rewarded on those platforms You And I just want to ask you, when you look at humor and sort of how we use it in practice, to you, is there a good humor and a bad humor?
Is there, sort of a line between them? How does, when does, humor kind of go bad in practice or do you think it can?
Dr. Matt Asciutto: I mean, I think it definitely can. I think that, And maybe this is just my style of humor that, so I don’t mean to maybe overstep in terms of what humor is overall, but I do feel like when we, as team members within a, within any situation, but you know, as veterinarians in a client veterinary relationship or whatever, or even just sort of who your techs are and who you are, I think that the humor that we should be using is like collaborative we’re in this together type of humor, if we’re ever going to make fun of something I was actually just talking to a friend of mine yesterday who’s an oncologist, and he was just like, we were talking about how frustrating certain mast cell tumors can be, right?
And it’s like, that’s funny. That’s a funny bit. That’s not at anyone’s expense. That is, you know, there’s something about that. But it’s like, we are in this together. We have this common experience and we’re in this together. And there’s not really an other, right? And I do think that works in my opinion.
I think that’s the humor that we should be using if, at all possible within these situations, as opposed to putting other people down.
Dr. Andy Roark: No, I think that’s, I think you just gave me a really good rule of thumb. That, that, that humor with when there’s an other, when there’s an outside, I think if you’re punching with your humor, I think that’s probably bad. So yeah, that makes a lot of sense. I think it’s a really good answer.
Dr. Matt Asciutto: Right? We all really want to use it. And there is something that’s kind of funny about the like metronidazole on the shelf, just like beckoning you like and you’re just like, ah, I can’t, you know, and you have this like weird push pull relationship, like that’s funny.
Right?
Dr. Andy Roark: That’s so funny.
Dr. Matt Asciutto: But it’s not like, Oh, people who use metronidazole are, you know, behind the times or whatever. Right. Like that’s a judgment based other type of thing. And I just don’t think that’s, I think that in the moment it can be funny, but it may be depending on how you do it, but I just don’t think it’s useful.
It’s not useful humor.
Dr. Andy Roark: No, but, oh man, that’s such a perfect example of metronidazole beckoning to you from the shelf because, like, it resonates and, like, ah, my favorite humor is sort of inside humor. I don’t mean to make people feel excluded, but the best stuff is the stuff that’s really niche. And so that, the metronidazole calling to you from the shelf.
Like I feel that so much. I was literally in the radiograph room today and we were going to do a system in this cat that was peeing outside the litter box. And of course the cat comes in, his bladder is tiny. There’s no urine. And the technician looks at me and goes, well, what do you want to do?
And I was like, I know what old school Andy would want to do. And that’s sent him home with antibiotics and sent him home, which like, nope, that’s not what we do. That’s what, 1999 Andy would have a hundred percent been on board with. We’re not doing that anymore.
Dr. Matt Asciutto: Yeah. And then you have like this thing that now, for me, it’s in those moments where you’re kind of outside of yourself a little bit, where now you can laugh on this, at this little tiny bit that, that shows up in your mind, right? Like old school, Andy hops on your shelf and is now, you know, be like, ah, do it, man. Just get just a little Convenia. Just a little Convenia.
Dr. Andy Roark: Just do a little convenia, this won’t hurt anything. Just, just, try it. Just try it and see how it feels.
Dr. Matt Asciutto: Right.
Dr. Andy Roark: No, that’s terrible.
Dr. Matt Asciutto: but I do think that, you know, when you look at, I’ve actually been thinking about humor kind of a lot over this past, you know, six months or a year or so and how I particularly use it, but it really is, it’s like finding these small moments of connection that then can be something else that I think there’s a lot of power in that.
And then, and those things, you know, you can take a euthanasia. And maybe you’re not like guffawing, right? No one is feeling what’s happening in there, but there’s smiling. There’s even chuckling. There’s like, Hey, this is actually a good human moment. And it can just come from these little things.
Like, someone said to me the other day, and this was just horrible news that I had given them. And they said something along the lines of you know, I’m speechless. And that never happens. Like, I’m never speechless. Right. Which by the way, that was her offer. She was the client.
Dr. Andy Roark: Yeah. She’s given you a lot to work with.
Dr. Matt Asciutto: right? And it’s not, you know, you don’t come in and be like, I know I could tell this whole time you’ve been talking or whatever, like that’s me against her. But just this idea of, Hey, being speechless. And that’s something that never happens is something that you can kind of work with and it’s an opening, right?
And that’s an opening for humor. And I think things like that are present and can allow us to connect even more, even in bad situations.
Dr. Andy Roark: Yeah, no, I think that’s true. Gallows humor. Emergency veterinarians are notorious for, I don’t want to say notorious, are known for some gallows humor. Do you ascribe to the idea that again, not, it’s not hurting to others, but do you ascribe to the idea that a shared laugh, if it’s a dark laugh, is a good thing?
Or do you think that there are things about gallows humor that maybe don’t have a place in vet medicine?
Dr. Matt Asciutto: Oh, I feel like if we are laughing and it’s together, that it’s okay. I’m sure that there’s a line here and I’m not going to be able to come up with it.
Dr. Andy Roark: Exactly, right! I don’t know what the line is but I feel like there’s a line. There has got to be a line and at the same time
Dr. Matt Asciutto: We’ll find it. Yeah. Yeah.
Dr. Andy Roark: (Laughter) Unfortunately, we’ll know it when we’re well past it and we’re like, oh that was the line.
Dr. Matt Asciutto: Right. And like, you know, something small you know, I know this is, I don’t know, this sounds terrible, but like when it’s a really bad you know, a night and there’s like a lot of euthanasias or, you know, and then there’s like this really critical case that I have to kind of take care of, I might say just to myself and around something along the lines of like, Well, I got to go murder this dog real quick, but then I’ll be back and we’ll do it.
Right? And it’s not like for me, it’s not obviously, you know, I’m not, I’m going to take this seriously. It’s not, but in that way, for me, it sort of does take away the heaviness of it. Right? I’m obviously not committing murder, but it’s like, I just takes the moment. Cause then I’m going to be able to come back and sort of say, okay, cool, like now this is what we have to do to the dog and oxygen. This is what we have to do with this one. Who’s bleeding out, et cetera.
Dr. Andy Roark: Well, yeah, I think I think you’re spot on. I think a lot of people would sort of say, you know, humor like that, it, it, breaks that tension that we all carry. And if you can just set that weight down for a second and everybody sort of laughs, then you can, then you can pick that weight back up and maybe move forward in a way that it doesn’t, drag you down the way that not setting the weight down does. So anyway, I think that’s great.
Dr. Matt Asciutto: Right. I think light stuff is a way to do that. Like for me it’s, I use a lot of silly language, like Okie dokey and you know, stuff like that. Like if something comes in and it’s, you know, oh we gotta do this and you know, heart failure cases are like this that are really bad, right? It’s like, okay, there are okie dokie, like here we go.
Or you know, little things that are. Obviously, they don’t take track from anything, but they’re definitely unexpected that then does break that tension, which then allows us to focus, right? It’s on purpose. I don’t want us to feel like we’re balancing plates on top of sticks the whole time. We’re never going to be able to do our job effectively.
But if we can just kind of be like, Oh, now I’m out of this cycle. Now I can focus on, you know, doing CPR and chest compressions and whatever that might be.
Dr. Andy Roark: Oh man, Dr. Matt Asciutto, thanks so much for being here. Where can people find you online? Ooh, have you got a webpage for Inkwell or anything like that?
Dr. Matt Asciutto: Not yet, but I will have a webpage that is fully functional in mid June for Inkwell, which is my new veterinary practice. You can find me on thegreatestprofession.com. I have a podcast that’s basically about the human behind the professional. So thegreatestprofession.com and also MattAsciutto.com.
Dr. Andy Roark: Awesome. Well, I’ll put links in the show notes. Thanks so much for being here guys. Thanks for tuning in. Take care of yourselves, everybody.
And that’s it. That’s what I got for you guys. I hope you enjoy it. I hope you got something out of it. Thanks to Matt for being here guys. Thanks for coming along and laughing. If you are thinking about improv comedy, you’re like I might like to do that. I strongly encourage you. I love it. I have so much fun with it.
It gives me something to do. That’s not vet medicine. It gives me a friend group that’s not related to vet medicine. It just makes me so much better in the exam room. It makes me better to work with. It makes me a better spouse and father. All of those things really do come out of skills from learning to think on your feet, to talk to other people, to listen really intently.
So anyway, I’m just, I’ll always be an advocate for improv comedy. If you’re thinking about it, find an improv theater near you, take some classes. Sometimes they have just one or two day weekend intensives. Think about it. Anyway, I would really encourage anybody who’s in vet medicine. Just think about it.
Take care of yourselves guys. I’ll talk to you later. Bye.